Bisexual Black Men Exist!

September 23^rd was the celebration of the annual ‘BiPride Day’. The last week of September was the annual ‘Bi-Visibility Awareness/BiPride Week’ (aka BiWeek), and the entire month of September is celebrated annually as ‘BiPride/Bi-Visibility Awareness Month’. Having said that, I’ll add that yes indeed, bisexual men exist!

To the one-tracked, “straight or gay“-minded members of my ethnic community, I am a living example that bisexual Black men also exist! I feel it is both important and necessary to repeatedly make that fact known because many members of the Black ethnic group – particularly many Black women, either refuse to acknowledge or would simply reject bisexuality as a real and legitimate sexual orientation that exists in many Black men. (Don’t ask me why anyone would still have that ignorant attitude in the 21st century.)

There are many heterosexual [straight] men and women and many homosexual [gay] men and women who simply want little to nothing intimate or romantic to do with bisexual men. Skin color, race/ethnicity notwithstanding, in my experience I continue to find some heterosexual people and some homosexual people too, who say that they neither would want to date or enter into a committed relationship with any bisexual male. Still, I’ve always found it interesting how there are always members of both groups who certainly don’t mind having sex with a known or suspected bisexual male. Go figure. 😐

Most of my fellow bisexual Black men know well the negative stigma and attitude that exists towards or against bisexual men in general. We especially know that it exists towards/against bisexual Black men within the Black ethnic group/community. One of the reasons why many bisexual Black men prefer to hide and would vehemently deny their bisexuality to others (and, quite sadly, often to themselves) is often because their [Black] manliness/manhood and masculinity are either incorrectly assessed or called into question.

Many Black men living in denial of their [bi]sexuality and who reject living in their bisexual truth, choose to stay closeted, perhaps thinking it’s safer. Closeted bisexual Black men will deny that they’ve ever had any sexual contact, much less any sexual attraction to or desire for other males. Such men will deny having ever engaged in any casual sexual activity with other males – including participating in the perfectly natural homoerotic act of a circle jerk. Many such men will sneak around – being on the so-called “down low”, to covertly have sex with other consenting straight, bisexual, and gay men, often while they’re in committed relationships with females.

[Related: Why Don’t Black Men Get To Be Bisexual?]
[Related: No Home for Bisexual Black Men]

I’m sure many non-Black bisexual men behave in the same manner discussed. However, being a Black male who happens to be bisexual, my focus in this article is specifically on and about Black men. I have yet to meet anyone else in my area, especially another Black man, who, like me, is openly, shamelessly, and proudly bisexual. //⚤//

– RobFather

[S/N: Originally posted on Facebook on September 24, 2023. Parts re-written or edited for clarity.]